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My message to any parent who has a son or daughter playing youth sports is pretty simple.

1. Be happy that your children are healthy and active. This has got to be No. 1.

2. Make sure they are around people who care about their growth more than winning. I have been recruiting at camps for well over two decades, and I’ve never kept score at an event.

3. Make sure they have fun. If your child is going to make lacrosse or any sport a love in their life or a healthy obsession, it will be them that makes that decision, not you as the parent.

If you celebrate your child’s personal growth, keep the expectations reasonable and don’t base their entire worth on their success, you’ll see very clearly the things that matter. In 20 years, the wins, the stats and the playing time might just fall into place. And if they don’t, it’s OK.

PARENTAL GUIDANCE

There’s nothing more gratifying than to see your child happy. Watching them on the lacrosse field can be one of the greatest experiences you’ll have. But how can you help them enjoy that experience? We asked our Instagram followers that very question.

@sophia.gomberg.lax: The first thing my parents say is, “I had so much fun watching you play.” They don’t coach me and never yell, “Wheels.” I’m just thankful for the support, the never-ending rides, the cleats, the sticks, etc. I’m a lucky girl.

@jonwfd65: Enjoy watching them play. Be in the moment. It’s over way faster than you think.

@mckelvie2112: When asked by a parent with a 5-year-old what summer camps I would recommend to get their child the best training for a scholarship to Duke, I suggested math camp.

@coachman3333: Allow your kids to play multiple sports and pursue the ones they’re passionate about. Encourage them not to fear mistakes, but embrace them. This is how they learn.